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Friday, April 17, 2020

How to learn Effectively- 4 ways to authentic learning



Psychology of Effective learning


                          

Learning is a lifelong process, from cradle to grave we will be learning one thing or the other. In this intense competitive world, a lot of impetus is given to learning and it is essential to keep ourselves updated with latest knowledge, else redundancy will set in and you will be left behind the competition. Learning is an integral part of our life. The day one stops learning, he/she will drive the last nail on the coffin, that's how the world is progressing now.
Effective learning does not necessarily come through reading books, it can be acquired  by observing life and nature, learning through your own experiences (Life gives experience first and lessons later) This is experiential learning, could be further enriched by studying history and observing behavior. 
In this information era, we are inundated with information by social media, TV, newspaper blog, the Internet etc. We are drowned in confusion and lost in the information maze and we have forgotten the real essence of learning. Seldom do we realize what to focus on and what not to, and ultimately we end up accumulating garbage.
For academic interest, let’s briefly look at how learning happens. According to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) learning happens in four stages; these four stage model explains how we learn to move from, I don't know how to do it to effortlessly and skillfully do the work.
                        


a.   Unconscious incompetence: We don't know  that we don't know, we are not aware of our incompetence. Ex: we don't think certain things exist as we are unaware of them.

 Analogy of learning to drive car is very pertinent for all four stages of learning
Ex: as a child we think, just sit in car and take a ride, that’s all. We don’t know the driving skill required.
b. Conscious incompetence: We are aware of our incompetence and know that long learning curve ahead.
Ex: when you start driving, you realize, there is much more to it than  what you have thought of. There are so many different things to do and to learn many new behaviors.
c. Conscious competence: Having awareness of incompetencies, you have committed yourself and worked hard to learn and acquire new skills.

Ex: As you start practicing driving car you enter 3rd stage of learning, but you are not fluent and smooth in driving car. And you are consciously aware of every areas of incompetency.

d. Unconscious competence: Perseverance and hard work to internalize the competency. This is where the magic happens and big transformation takes place. You are able to use your skill effortlessly and automatically, you're 'in a state of flow' it just oozes out without conscious focus.
It takes real hard work moving from conscious competence to unconscious incompetence.
Ok, let me not bore you with much theory, though this is useful for our future discussion.
Learning is a shift in behavior (modification of behavior as a result of learning from experience), meaning,  your behavior tends to change when you learn something new, otherwise it will remain as information only. ex: smoking is injurious to health…. even a doctor who smokes knows this but only as cerebral information. But when the understanding sinks into your bone that’s learning and you quit smoking, your behavior changes from smoker to non smoker. Getting up early in the morning and doing exercises has a lot of benefits…..we all know this mentally, but  how many will take the trouble of getting up early and start the work out? Only when knowledge sink in behavior changes
You must have passion to learn, only then you make the difference and shift in behavior happens. Ekalavya, a greatest archer, who was turned down by Dronacharya as a disciple, accepts mentally Dronacharya as guru and creates a statue of Dronacharya and starts practicing in front of it, with great zeal and perseverance. As a result he becomes one of the greatest archers. If you have the will and zeal to learn, in today's technology driven world there is an avalanche of information available, choose and focus on what you want to learn.  It's easy, unlike the era before the advancement of technology.
We resist new learning, It may be due to lack of confidence, lack of readiness to forgo prejudices, ego, myopic views etc…we can keep on listing reasons...but the major reason for not learning effectively is that we are not ready to unlearn things and go with a fresh mind. This is the major hindrance. This reminds me of a story of ZEN-cup of tea. A professor of a management school goes to meet Zen master to learn about Zen philosophy. They sit across the table, Zen master has ceremonious way of serving the tea, even after the cup is filled with tea, Zen master keeps pouring and tea starts overflowing. On seeing this the professor asked the Zen master  why he is still pouring when the cup is full and overflowing, Zen master retorts, "like this cup, you are full of opinions and prejudices, whatever I pour spills out, how can I show you Zen unless you empty your cup….
 Similarly, all of us have our cup full of opinions, prejudices and speculations. We need to empty the cup before we venture out to learn new things. We should be like children, open to learning with curiosity and rapt attention. Children are able to absorb to the extent of 95% of whatever has been taught to them.
How to empty the cup is the question, if new learning has to happen.
Over a period of time we all have developed patterns of thinking and action. We have landed in a comfort zone and remained there for long. So naturally it's difficult for us to embrace new ideas and concepts. We strongly believe there is no alternative to our ways. Challenging the existing patterns and accepting new paradigms will bring a shift in perspective and thereby effective learning takes place. 
Remove prejudices: Prejudices are a great impediment in the path of learning. You have strong opinions about something and you don't want to change them. Develop sincerity to recognize and remove your prejudices.  Go with a fresh mind; be open to new ways of learning.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Friday, April 10, 2020

Heal Yourself to Heal the World







Friends, we are all going through the worst crisis history has ever witnessed, the whole world is suffering, day by day the pandemic corona virus  spreading its tentacles, choking and killing thousands and thousands of people across globe, life has come to stand still, with no sign of abatement and there is no solution at sight. Humanity is in distress.
Economy is collapsing globally, many nations like the US , UK, Italy, and Iran have just kneeled down and lost hope ( they have put up a brave front and are still fighting the war ceaselessly). India with its mighty power and resolve to fight, putting its best effort to ward off the disease. We have two major challenges at hand, to stop virus spreading and revive the economic situation which is already reeling under pressure. If both continue unchecked for some time, we will land  up in a big crisis, we don't know what the future holds for us.
Well, you don't have to lose hope,  Mantra is “THIS TOO SHALL PASS”  nothing will last forever, there is light at the end of the tunnel, but the trail of destruction it leaves will take some time for us to reconstruct emotionally and economically, certainly we will bounce back, it's just a matter of time. 
When you look at it from a spiritual perspective, nature is doing a  balancing act and trying to change things radically. When a change happens at a fundamental level, things will move topsy turvy and you experience intense turbulence, the  boat rocks several times before it is anchored. We have no control on that, we can only hope and pray for things to get normal. 
In the midst of crisis, we are constantly living in fear of uncertainty and fear for loved ones. Psychological trauma, hardship one has to go through is unprecedented and there is an information overload by TV channels. Switch on any channel, you will be bombarded with pandemic news and added to that experts'  are not so expert, but  turn out weird speculations about the grim situation. All these things build up the stress and worries and ultimately it affects your health.
What we can do at this juncture is to wait patiently, never lose hope and pray. However, there is one more important thing we can do: to heal ourselves. As mentioned earlier, every day, every moment we are encountering stressful situations, it will affect  physical and mental health badly. We need to work on this aspect and keep ourselves healthy.
Healing is bodys’ way of repairing the damaged cells and restoring health from  diseases. We all have the natural healing process within our body, an auto healing mechanism, but at times we have to supplement and accelerate the healing process through certain sadhanas or techniques to overcome acute and chronic stress.
It is just not the body alone, mind is connected in the process, its Mind-Body connection. It means our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and attitude can affect our biological functions positively or negatively depending on the intensity of emotions you carry.
Process of self-healing involves the mind-body complex. Tune in to the needs of body and mind, work coherently. Mind is the battlefield, all problems start from there, mind harbours  fears, worries, doubts, criticism, anger, frustration and obsessive thoughts. So we need to take care of our mind.


Highlighted below are a few of my thoughts. Start practicing and you will see amazing results.

a.      When we know that we cannot do much about the situation, the first thing is to accept it as it is. This will calm our mind, and enables you to think better and plan future action.
b.   Just be in the present." here and now": do'n't get swayed by speculations of experts, never assume the future is bleak. We really do not know what awaits us tomorrow. Think positive and look for an opportunity. As saying goes " with every adversity there comes an opportunity". You may be spinned into higher possibilities in life, please be optimistic.
c.  Insulate yourself from all the negativity(negative people, news and thoughts....). This will have a positive effect on your health and thought process.
        
  1. Listen to good music and read motivational books ...watch movies...music has power to reduce the stress and help you relax by releasing neurotransmitters. 

  1. Focus on breathing, daily do simple pranayama, and meditation...at least keep aside 30 to 40 minutes.

  1. Self-healing technique: keep one palm on your head and other on your naval portion, close your eyes and chant OM for 21 times and swap the hand and repeat OM for 21 times. This is a very effective healing method and it builds immunity and brings calmness to your mind.

  1. One more effective healing method is: Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, pray for the cosmos to send the healing light. Visualize the light entering your body through Head ( Bramharandra). Take the light to every portion of the body and feel the healing effect and the energy. This method has immense benefits on your health.

  1. Go for guided meditation ( a lot of stuff available on youtube) this helps you relax deeply, in this state body re-balances and accelerates the healing process.

  1. Sleep and Diet: Sleep adequately and if you sleep less, it will weaken the body immune system. Pay attention to your food habits, healthy eating and nutrient-rich diet enhance the self-healing process.
There are many methods recommended for deep healing. If you practice and make it a daily routine, the above mentioned points, you will realize the benefits very soon. You can move to the next level of healing process in later stages.

Stay calm during the crisis, everything happens for a reason, it may not be revealed to us now. When we come out of this, we realize the purpose of the whole event.
Stay calm, Stay at home and Stay safe…...



Saturday, April 4, 2020

Passion key to success




Passion key to success


Often we hear our teachers and lecturers saying “pursue your passion to be successful”, and anything you do in life without passion, you may not succeed and excel. The reason is very simple: passion drives us to put our heart and soul into what we do, and the outcome will be an amazing result.
History is replete with examples of passionate people who contributed immensely to science and technology, art, humanity and society at large, and reaching the pinnacle of success. One such example comes to mind is Steve Jobs, (it is cliché ) founder of Apple, his passion to create excellent products without any flaws is un-parallel. There were and are many such people who are passionate with what they do and continue to contribute and excel in their field of activity.
These guys have only one aim, to give the best and work with full zeal and enthu. They don’t need any external motivation and they are propelled by their own passion to contribute and excel in the chosen field. 
Whether you are considering starting a business or building a career, you need to have passion along with skills to succeed. You may have developed good competencies required for the job, without passion, success will remain a mirage.
Many are fortunate to have identified their passion early in life, but majority struggle to find passion and remain mediocre for the rest of life. We find a number of examples in corporate jobs. According to a survey 80% of the people are not happy with the job, and they are highly demotivated and  not engaged, job is dull and drab for them, they have no enthu to come to office, they drag their feet to work. The reason for not being able to pursue passion is the financial compulsions (in most of the cases), if they are able to navigate the financial hurdles and find a way to pursue the passion, they can excel. Companies run employee engagement programs, just to get the employees grounded and develop emotional connect, unfortunately they fail   because of wrong understanding and strict timelines and pressure to deliver, success rate is less than 10%
Passionate people are successful since the purpose of their life is driven by passion, they show immense interest in work and are resilient when faced with obstacles, they have positive outlook and are not worried about any kinds of rewards monetary or otherwise. They are able to overcome difficulty through problem solving skills and are highly analytical.
Different people have different passions, someone may be interested in sports, somebody in arts, music, research and development and many more…..
Have you found your passion? Or are you still struggling?
70% of the people don't find their passion for life, they struggle and keep complaining. Fortunate 15% find it early in life and they become achievers, 15% find it in the later stage of life. 
Why do 70% of people fail to recognize and follow passion? 
Popular misconception is, people think that passion is inherited or it just comes like that, but the  reality is: passion has to be developed and you have to work on it consciously, if you are not interested in what you are doing, go for new pursuits and see if your interest matches.
Recently read an article in Harvard business review, author makes an interesting and an insightful suggestions that “Focus on what you care for than what you love”, the subtle distinction is, when you focus on what you love, you enjoy working and it makes you happy, but, if you focus on what you care about, you align your values with passion and it will have a great impact on what you want as outcome.
Some guys stay in their comfort zone and they kind of “don't rock my boat”, and they languish in the same position for years and years and complain eternally and do not enjoy the work.
 Ask yourself, what would you do if you have sufficient money in the bank, something you always wanted to do, as a child may be you were interested in automobiles, or wanted to become singer...you search for an answer and you will get it.
Life will be dull and drab without a passion. You are the author of your life, do not settle for less, develop passion, it makes you do amazing things in life.
While pursuing passion, you may tumble down many times by failure and obstacle, don't lose heart, it's worth a try and will spiral you up to the next orbit.
Nothing worthwhile or significant can be achieved without passion…..

You can write to me, if you have any doubts or would like to discuss nuances of passion. I will be more than happy to connect and discuss

Wednesday, March 18, 2020

Change



Recently, I met a friend of mine in one of our family functions. He was looking happy, a smile on his face, greeting and talking to every one jovially; he was well dressed and radiating with joy. He was full of life…I saw a tremendous change in him. The same person, a few years back, was a much disturbed man because of marital discord and divorce proceedings; he went through a horrible time …..He had to fight two years of court case and harassment by in-laws to unsettle him and his parents. He   was completely beaten down to the ground, lost interest in life. He used to dress shabbily, stopped socializing because of the stigma. After a series of setbacks, he fought bravely and got over his past and now settled in the US happily……. Breeze of change ……
 Mohammed Ali, a Heavyweight boxer, a social activist, a philanthropist and the most celebrated sports person of the 20th century, won a lot of awards and accolades, he is known for power, tenacity and strength. He was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, a degenerative neurological condition; during his last days he was not able to lift a glass of water.  What an unfortunate change, the person known for his qualities had just died opposite of it.
Change is an inevitable part of life and we all go through the phase, it may be from small change (like….change in interior of house, buying new dress) to the most significant (new Job, Promotion, Marriage ….and getting afflicted with disease). Some are imposed on us, some are caused by, and few are transformative and mundane.
Physically, mentally and emotionally we all go through change. Isn’t it true that nothing is permanent in life, whether its pain or pleasure, success or failure, win or lose, everything is subject to change and it’s transitory. Change is the only constant in life and everything else is transitory.
When we talk about change, often we relate to technology change and impact on the Individual and the society at large.
Globalization is the starting point of the massive change that we are witnessing today. It integrated the world and the business expanded globally.  Many multinationals started operating out of India and enabled technology transfer. The Internet has opened a whole new world of information with the press of a button. Life has become so convenient (Changed) that you can do all transactions  with mobile or laptop, like... you can book a train or Air ticket, order food from your  favorite hotel, and pay the bills...etc
Technology has brought massive and welcome change to the healthcare industry, advanced diagnostic equipment enabled precision and fast diagnosis. Patients have access to best diagnostic tools and treatments. Minimal-invasive treatment reduces pain and enables quick healing. Mobile apps and digitization of records has made life simple and easy.
Advanced technology has changed the way transportation, automotive, aerospace, defense, space technology works.
Artificial intelligence, machine learning and IOT are the game changers.
The list endless and we can go on writing about how technology is changing society and the individual.  While technology is changing at the blink of an eye, in the midst of rapid change, how are we equipping ourselves to adapt to the changing scenario. Do we have the right mindset to accept, adapt and move forward?
"Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything."  - George Bernard Shaw
We are well informed about the need for change and are also aware of the importance and the host of positivity it presents. Somehow, with all the necessary knowledge, we are reluctant to embrace and accept the change.
Different people react differently based on the situation, personality type and motivating factor. Some guys happily accept the change and learn new things. But for many it is threatening and unsettling. 
 The question lingers in our mind, why we fail to embrace wholeheartedly when change comes in our life, be it professional, personal or in any sphere of activities.
Dr.Spencer Johnson’s light-hearted parable about change “Who moved my cheese”  It elaborates the physical and emotional journeys of four characters-Sniff, Scurry, Hem and Haw, in search of cheese, they find, lose and rediscover in the maze. Highly acclaimed book and he gives very good insights and phases one goes through in the process of change anticipate, approach, adapt & manage change.


Process of transformation


We resist change due to the following reasons
  1. Lack of confidence
  2. Fear of unknown
  3. Lethargy
  4. Indifference

  1. Lack of self-confidence: 60 % to 70% don’t make the decision due to lack of self confidence and they worry about failure. This lack of self-confidence is not genetic, it is triggered due to some incidence in your life or unconsciously you have fallen into the pit without being aware of it.

Ex: A boy was very brilliant in academics in his school and college days and was very confident. When he joined a job, his boss once remarked in front of everyone that “You are not as smart as you think you are” this triggered the reaction and he lost
Self-confidence

You can enhance self-confidence by not relying on others' endorsement, but by working on your personality.  Be confident in what you do. Couple of points below, will help you enhance self-confidence. 

a.     Groom yourself well
b.    Develop good habit
c.     Develop skill and knowledge
d.    Be in the company of positive people
e.     Think positive about yourself

2. Fear of unknown: Fear of unknown stops us from accepting the change, mind plays the trick, it deters us from taking action by feeding negative outcomes. You will have to break the wall of unknown fear and come out on the other side. 
 You can manage the fear of the unknown by adopting simple steps below.
a.     Understanding: Thorough understanding of the subject matter/ situation is the best way to deal with fear of the unknown, you get to the root cause, and if you have a deeper understanding of the situation, you will be better equipped to deal with fear.

b.    To be in the present: Better way to deal with fear of unknown is to be in the       present and do  reality check. Reality check will help you dispel misunderstanding of the situation and bring clarity.

2.     Lethargy: By definition it is lack of energy and enthusiasm. The worst enemy of progress is lethargy. People have lost precious things because of lethargy. It is essential to identify reason for lethargy and take corrective action.
              
                 
a)     Develop passion
b)    Connect socially
c)     Follow proper diet, eat nutrient-rich food
d)    Follow sleep hygiene
  
4) Indifference:  Lack of interest and motivation in something you do is the major constraint to accept the change 
Develop passion and understand what drives you, enhance motivational level, you will come out of indifference.
a)     Do introspection
b)    Daily write your aspirations. You get clarity on what you want to do.
c)     Read motivational books to inspire you.
d)    Talk to your friends or mentor.

Change is possible, it takes lot of conviction and perseverance……….be optimistic and you will ……


Friday, March 6, 2020

FEAR……Scare it out of your mind.



 FEAR……Scare it out of your mind.





 Deer run faster than its predators, but it gets caught easily and killed. The Deer is slim and agile, has good energy, despite having strong qualities, it fails to give a slip to the predator and ultimately  succumbs ……....the reason is Fear….the deer is paralyzed by fear gives up and become easy prey.

It is true with all of us, when we see an impending danger we get scared and succumb to the situation.

Fear is so powerful and it swamped in all walks of our life. Some fears are healthy and it helps us to grow. Some are irrational, and it hinders the growth.

Some students who are brilliant and good at studies, they fail to score good marks; it’s because of fear of examination. They tend to forget the subject and mind goes blank, fear over powers their ability.

Some people are scared of flying, a little turbulent in the flight will send the blood pressure shooting high and they get panic attacks.

When you are due for a presentation in the office or  address a gathering,  you become  nervous and get scared of the crowd, you  feel  “Butterflies in the stomach”  and  you pace back and forth , tongue- tied, you cannot recollect the topic……..you fail……… fear takes over you.

Some guys don’t venture or  try new things, be it professional or personal, because of fear of unknown; this may be due to past experience or mental imagination. They fear failure and adaptation and are worried about moving out of comfort zone.

We can continue with the list of fears and how it will affect one’s life…….However,  on the contrary, there are some who thrive on fears, they are known as adrenaline junkies…  ex:  guys who participate in dangerous sports activities, like bungee jumping, sky diving, surfing, river rafting and many more, they like to challenge the fear and conquer it.

 Fears are an unavoidable facet of our life’s experience. It is a natural emotion and survival mechanism. When we confront a perceived threat, our bodies respond in specific ways. Physical reaction is “Fight or Flight”, body prepares either to run or combat.

Constantly being in the state of fear will affect physically and psychologically, it creates anxiety disorders, and other health related issues. This hinders growth and the performance.

Fear restricts our lives and imprisons us. The study reveals that, we experience two types of fear, perceived and the real one. Perceived fears are our mental imaginations and also in anticipation of the future events, it may or may not happen. Real threats, on the other hand, are potentially dangerous, more often than not, involves physical harm.

It is estimated that 80% of our fears are the perceived one, isn’t it a good revelation!!.  Now let’s resolve to overcome the challenge.



  
Below I have put down my thoughts on how to overcome the monster called fear.

 Face the fear:  Facing the fear can help you realize situation is not as bad as you imagined. It helps in building confidence & shows your strength to handle the situation on your own.

Swami Vivekananda, narrates a story of monkey, a few monkey ganged up and scaring tourists by blocking the way, they used to snatch food and snacks. One day they attacked Swami Vivekananda, he thought of running back, but saw more monkeys started chasing him, screaming and making scary noises. He decides to face the monkey, he turned back and stared at them fearlessly and monkeys vanished in no time.

Moral: If you face your fear instead of running away from them, they will run away like monkeys.

      Focus on breathing:  Breathing is most essential of all practices, it is “Prana Vayu”. Focusing on deep breathing helps you relaxing and reducing the anxiety. When the pang of anxiety attacks, focus on breathing and take couple of deep breaths, it brings down the jitter and calms the mind.

Learn different techniques of Pranayama (one of the 8 limbs of Patanjali Yoga Sutra) it gives great relief and you calm down instantly.


  Take one at a time: Do not try to tackle all your fears at a time, just pick one and work on it.
Starting small can help build confidence in yourself, as you overcome each new challenge.

Identify false beliefs: All fears are learned and nobody is born with fears. Identifying and rationalizing the beliefs that you have picked up during the course of journey, brings a great relief, It is like “the right diagnosis is half cure”, Identify and drop those irrational fears.

      Hypnotherapy:  When you are experiencing overwhelming fear or anxiety, please consider working with a therapist. Hypnotherapy is very effective, you can program   positive   thoughts in to your mind, erasing or eliminating negative thoughts and beliefs. This is very effective and I have seen many people getting cured and have come out of chronic suffering.

Do not let the fear to rule your life, take corrective action.

There are many techniques available; you can adopt the one which suits you most and combat anxiety and fear. In this write up, I have put down few points basing on my experience as a Hypnotherapist. People have got relief and leading happy life.