Hi Guys, I am back again, in my last
blog I just touched up on the benefits of being in the present moment and also
I outlined few tips on mindfulness, hope you enjoyed reading it.
While I was just thinking about
the next topic to blog, I am reminded of couple of incidences, how people are
able to surmount the challenges when life throws curveballs. The emotional
turmoil they go through while handling the situation.
Challenges catche you off guard,
it can strike you in many ways be it a personal loss (losing near and dear
one’s or spouse), getting afflicted with terminal diseases, career and job
upheavals, financial loss and many more.
When you faced with such unpleasant life’s situations, it’s quite natural to despair and lose all
hopes. Life looks gloomy. However, there
is silver lining around the dark cloud.
Interestingly, I have seen some
cases where the affected person has shown phenomenal endurance and
emotional resilience; they display never say die attitude, without any trace of hopelessness or depression but they stay calm and
composed during the turmoil and are fully incharge of life.
When such incidence occurs some guys nearly
collapse and react negatively. On close scrutiny, we see a pattern of behavior
(in most cases) where an individual get in to “Victim mindset” and start
brooding about the situation rather than finding solutions, Seldom they make effort to wriggle out of the situation and end up prisoners of their own mindset. They often find solace in sharing their stories with sympathetic people.
In the game of life, curveballs
are inevitable and life is full of ups and downs,twists and turns, while we
cannot control what happens around us but can certainly control what happens within us by
expanding horizon of thinking and
developing emotional agility and flexibility, this will surely enable us to
respond to the situation than reacting.
Every problem has solutions, we need to look at from
different perspective, when shift in perspective happens you find the solution
just around.
1.
Acknowledge:
When misfortune befalls all of a sudden,
acknowledging and reconciling to the reality will be difficult, it takes time and
psychologically mind goes through few phases to come to terms with reality.
Phases are: Shock, denying, anger, bargaining, depression
and finally accepting.
Individual maturity and tolerance level determines how
quickly one moves out of each stage.
Example: someone might
take longer time to come out of shock state and someone else may take more time
to come out of depression or someone may quickly accept the reality.
2.
Stay calm and composed:
Do not get panic and stress yourself since mind gets
clouded by negative thoughts and blocks
your judgment. Few of them get panic attacks which leads to health complications.
Harmful neurotransmitters are released
when you are distressed/panicked which leads to mental health issues. Keep your
mind calm, don’t race your mind in an imaginative world (mind immediately rush
to imagine worst case scenario, it may not happen in the future). By staying
calm you will come to terms with reality and which will enable you to take
better decision.
Focus on your breathing, slowly breath in and breath out, observe
your breath pattern and focus on it for 10 to 15min, mind becomes calm.
3.
Talk to trusted partners or counselor:
Confiding with someone who you can trust act as Catharsis,it helps
in building emotional resilience.
Trusted confidante can offer you wonderful suggestions and give different
perspective.
a counselor will be a better partner in your recuperative journey.
a counselor will be a better partner in your recuperative journey.
4.
Reinvent and Rebuild yourself:
Curveballs are actually blessing in disguise, utilize this as an
opportunity to reflect (we may not have thought of it till now) on your
potential and look for ways and means that exists to serve society at large. Reinvent
yourself in the new direction, create new path, acquire necessary skills.This is an opportunity to grow and keep you
moving forward.
5.
Let go of things:
Learn to let go of things, do not
hold on to emotional baggage. Shun the ego clashes, decide it’s worth the
energy to hold on to it or let go and redirect your energy to more solution
oriented things.
6.
Affirmation:
Affirmation
is positive stroke you keep suggesting to your subconscious mind, periodically
keep repeating the positive affirmation and you can turn your desire in to reality.
( We shall see in my later blogs how to affirm and program subconscious mind)
( We shall see in my later blogs how to affirm and program subconscious mind)
Last word:
Everything happens for a reason, it may not reveal right now, as the drama of life starts unfolding you will get to know the real
reason at the right time…..surrender to the Universe and see the magic.
PS: in extreme cases like loss of spouse and terminal
illness, when things are irreversible, it’s difficult to handle and I would say
time is the healer.
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